Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention…
In case you haven’t caught on yet, life is one big learning experience. Making mistakes and learning from them is a large part of that experience. Beating yourself up and agonizing over real or imagined transgressions or errors in judgment is a waste of time. One of the best ways to minimize regrets is to live your life with kindness and compassion. Here are a few ideas that might help you to be your best self:
- Love What You Do
If you were fortunate enough to know at an early age what you wanted to do with your life, consider yourself blessed. So many of us (myself included) just stumble from one job to the next without ever having a passion for the work being done. So, what do you do if you never find a profession that makes you want to leap out of bed each day? You can’t quit your job - someone has to pay the bills. But you can engage in activities that you love and bring meaning to your life. Love to dance, travel, knit, sail, fish, play an instrument, rebuild car engines? The list is endless! Spend as much time as you can doing the things you love to do, and you won’t have any time for regrets.
2. Be Nice
This is a great one because it’s easy to do and doesn’t cost anything! No one ever regretted having a kind word for someone or helping an individual in need. The best part is you’ll feel better about yourself and never have to regret that you saw someone in need and didn’t try to help them.
3. Don’t Be A Worry Wart
No good has ever come from worrying about things. It certainly doesn’t change anything, and you can literally make yourself sick (they don’t make all of those medications for nothing) with worry. If you can do something constructive to impact a situation I say go for it. If not, take a walk and clear your head, listen to your favorite music, immerse yourself in a good book, or take a nap! As Doris Day said - what will be will be!
4. Live in The Here And Now
While pondering the past and ruminating about the future you’re missing the present. These ARE the good old days! Enjoy every one of them. You can’t change what’s been done or what’s happened, but you can affect what’s going on now. Before you get out of bed each day make a pledge to yourself to enjoy the path you’re on. The destination will take care of itself.
5. Learn to Forgive
Whoever said that life is too short was a genius. Harboring hurt feelings and old grudges doesn’t hurt anyone but you. I’m always amazed at the number of families who, for reasons most have forgotten, are estranged from one another. They’re your flesh and blood! Forgive them for whatever you think they may have done while you still have the chance. People die unexpectedly and once that happens it’s too late for forgiveness.
6. Take Care of Yourself
You only get one shot at this life (as far as I know) so don’t blow it! Stop smoking, get up off the couch, have a few less drinks, lose some weight, laugh! You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel! I don’t think there’s a person on the planet who regrets giving up cigarettes or shedding a few pounds.