Is It Time?
The decision to speak to the senior in your life about moving to any level of assisted living or memory care is, to say the least, difficult. Many seniors are in denial about their current living situation. They might tell you that they’re living quite well independently (thank you very much!) when in fact you (or someone else) are doing most of the things that allow their independence - maybe assisting with the activities of daily living or taking care of the household logistics (shopping, cleaning, laundry, transportation, etc.).
But sometimes even the best in-home care can leave the senior unsafe. Here are a few ways to help you navigate the question - is it time?
1. Their care needs have become so great that they are no longer safe.
If a senior has declined to the point of needing constant care and
supervision you will probably find that it is very difficult to sustain that level
of care over the long haul. If the in-home care is being provided by a hired
service the costs can quickly become prohibitive. A move to assisted living
or memory care might provide the needed care and supervision at a lesser
cost than in-home care. A Certified Senior Advisor who specializes in
senior placements can be an invaluable resource in doing a cost
2. Are they a wander risk?
Many people with dementia like to walk around but have no real concept of
where they’re going or how to get back. This is dangerous on every level. If
you’ve done all you can to secure the home against wandering and the
senior still manages to get out, it’s time to seriously consider a community
with a secured memory unit.
3. The senior can be combative.
People with dementia can sometimes become combative or behave
violently or aggressively. Medications and suggestions for behavior
modifications might be helpful, but if the senior is in danger of hurting
themselves or others, you’ll have no choice but to explore other living
4. The stress level for the caregiver is through the roof.
Caring for a senior can be the most stressful thing you ever do. Support
groups can be a wonderful outlet but in many cases a move to assisted
living or memory care is needed. Don’t jeopardize your own health and
well being and the health and well being of the senior by ignoring chronic
and severe caregiver stress.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if I can be of any assistance with answering that very important question - is it time?