I’m Not Moving!
This is very often the initial reaction of seniors when the subject of moving to any type of senior community is broached. Not only do they not want to move, but they usually don’t feel that they need to move. This denial can leave the family feeling angry, stressed, and frustrated. This position can also put the senior in harm’s way. So, what can be done? Here are a few suggestions:
- Stay calm! No good will come from getting upset with the senior. Anger and sarcasm will not improve the situation. As a matter of fact, this tact might well make the senior dig in their heels even more. Do your best to be kind and understanding. After all, this is still their life that we’re talking about. Ask them why they don’t want to move and then really listen to what they tell you. Are they reluctant to leave a home where they’ve lived for 50 years - where they moved to when they were first married? where they raised their children? In other words, where they spent the happiest years of their life?
- Fear of the unknown is powerful. Many people have outdated ideas about what a senior community is all about. Enlist the services of a certified senior advisor who is familiar with the communities in your area. They can arrange tours so the senior can see that today’s senior living communities are nothing like they were even ten years ago. Having an impartial third-party expert (like a certified senior advisor) on your team can be a game changer.
- Safety should be your number one priority. Making sure that your loved one is safe regardless of where they live is the goal. Being safe encompasses many things including fall prevention, personal hygiene, medication management, nutrition, vehicle safety, and safety from being scammed. If at any point you feel that your senior is not safe, it is incumbent upon you to do something. Doing what is right is not always easy.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you feel your senior would be better served by a move to a senior community. I would be happy to meet with them face-to-face to discuss their options.